It’s Good To Have Friends
I’ve never been one to have a lot of friends at one time. As a very high introvert, my best friends have often been characters in books. Many nights as a child and teenager, I fell asleep reading, and I’d vaguely remember my mom or dad (usually Dad, because Mom also fell asleep reading) moving the book and turning off my light before going to their (his!) own bed.
As an adult in the 21st century, I had never met some of my best friends. They lived in California and Ohio and New York and Oregon, Italy and Germany…well, you get the idea. I remember Wesley talking about his cyber friends one day, and I wondered if they could really be friends. And then I started connecting with people all over the world, and I realized that cyber friends really are friends. Many of my closest friends are “cyber,” and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. We’ve shared joys and sorrows and everything in between, and they will always have a special place in my heart.
This summer, I “reconnected” with some high school classmates. Sandy, Karen, Kathy, and I have been working together on a project since late spring, and I can honestly say I have local “in real life” besties. These are some of the most caring and giving women I know, and I’m honored that they consider me a friend. Because local friends – like family and cyber friends – are there for you, no matter what.
Today, I was supposed to meet Wesley and Amelia (my son and granddaughter) around 9 a.m. to go to a local pumpkin patch. I received a text from Wes around 8:30: “Yeah. Amelia locked me out of the house.” In case you don’t know, Amelia is two, and she loves buttons and gadgets and things that move. When Wes took their dog out this morning, he left the door open, and Miss Amelia found the fun little lock on the storm door. And she turned it. So when Wes came back to the house, the door wouldn’t open. Amelia was standing at the door. “Hi, Daddy! Daddy!! Daddy! Hi!”
Wesley got down to eye level with her. “Amelia, do you see the little button, right there? Turn it for Daddy. Can you turn it?” He heard jiggling, but apparently it was easier to turn to the “lock” position than “unlock,” and after several tries, she gave up and said, “Hi, Daddy!” So he texted the one person he knew would show up within 20 minutes – his mom. Because that’s what families do.
That was the start of a wonderful day. After I got him back in the house, I suggested that Wes take a shower and warm up while I fixed breakfast and got Amelia dressed. He was thrilled, because Amelia is still in “summer mode.” She does not like layers. Or socks. Or shoes. It takes a lot of distracting to get her into appropriate clothing these days, so Wesley was happy to turn that over to me.
After the trip to the pumpkin patch with Wes and Amelia (which was so much fun for all three of us!), Mike & I went to a “Joys & Frustrations of Writing and Publishing a Book” workshop with Austin Gisriel, a local writer. It was the fastest 90 minutes of my life. Austin shared so many wonderful tips, and I think he may have banished some of my roadblocks to writing. And now I have a new friend and mentor (and a source for some great books!).
And then there was this evening. My dear friend Sandy (remember the “reconnect” from high school?) had tickets to a fundraiser for a local high school football team and invited Karen, Kathy, and me to go. I had heard lots of gushing about the local band that played, but I had never heard them. We had front row center seats, and, yes, the band was amazing. If you’re local and have a chance to hear the Robbie Limon Band, go! They are really, really good.
Next weekend, I’m hanging out with some cyber friends. I’m so looking forward to seeing the ones I’ve already met in person (my BFF Susan, and Holly who has been so helpful to me) and meeting others for the first time.
The point of all this is – we need each other. Whether it’s in person or in books or in cyberspace, we need friends and role models and family who will be there to back us up, make us experience new things, bring a key when we’re locked out, or keep us company in the darkness. And if you consider me as one of these, I’m forever humbled and grateful!
Thanks for stopping by Stamping with Buffy. Have a beautiful day!